When the One we Love isn’t quite Ready for Us

By Ikenga Chronicles December 30, 2016

It can be soul-crushing when you love someone who doesn’t show love in the same way back—when they choose not to be with you.

People may say we’re crazy for holding on, but they don’t understand. We’re not actually holding on, it is love that is holding on to us.

It doesn’t matter how many times we try to rationalize our feelings. Those constant mind ramblings won’t count for anything.

It is not the mind that has chosen.

The mind wants to escape. It’s tired of our aching, relentlessly-tugging heart, and it frantically tries to pull us away—often to no avail.

In an ideal world, the one we love also loves, wants, needs and chooses us in the same way.

But here’s the thing not everyone seems to understand:

Someone can love us with their entire heart and still not be ready to meet us in love.

And just because they aren’t ready doesn’t mean they don’t still desire to love and be loved.

There are some people out there who are so afraid to be loved, they just cannot seem to open up the door, however badly they want to.

When love is near, they instinctively recoil and back away. It’s a primal fear, a basic survival instinct. They are scared to expose themselves and become vulnerable, and they also feel the threat of being left broken if the one they love leaves.

Soul resonation can be complicated and messy, because when someone feels like home, we are drawn to return, but we sometimes find that we don’t belong there.

People may say there are other souls out there who will feel like home, but that is one of the greatest lies ever told about love. Because we don’t consciously choose who to love.

Sometimes—whether a blessing or a curse—there is just one person…

READ MORE: http://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/12/when-the-one-we-love-isnt-quite-ready-for-us/

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