Giving Head: Why We Should Learn To Love It. {Adult}

By Ikenga Chronicles July 7, 2018

Giving Head: Why We Should Learn To Love It. {Adult}

–Lisa Vallejos, PhD

Ah, giving oral sex.

It’s one of the most polarizing discussions around. There are those who are solidly on the side of, “Yes! I love it!,” and those who are the side of, “Ugh. Nope.” Then, there are those in the middle who don’t really like it but will do it grudgingly.

For those second two groups, this is for you.

Now, don’t get me wrong, you may never convert into the penis whisperer, but I would like to offer you a different perspective on the subject and maybe—just maybe—you’ll learn to love it.

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Giving head is one of the most magical experiences for both parties involved. It’s not something that can be approached half-heartedly, though, if it’s going to be any fun for either. You have to go balls to the wall—so to speak.

When a man allows you to take his penis into your mouth, he’s giving you an immense amount of power. You can hurt him or pleasure him—and he is completely vulnerable. Embracing that power and owning it fully is erotic and sexy as hell. He trusts you and that trust is something to be treasured.

Paradoxically, you’re taking a submissive position while also embracing your power. The contradiction and interplay between the two states of being at once is titillating.

Watch your man as you pleasure him. See his body tense and relax, his breath rising and falling in rhythm with you. Feel him as he begins to lose control and surrender to the pleasure. Look at his eyes as they become heavy with ecstasy.

Control the pace. Take him to the edge, and back down again. Listen to his breathing and the sounds he makes as he feels your mouth on him. Don’t approach this as a “job” to be finished but…