Daddy, I’m Done!

By Ikenga Chronicles January 10, 2018

Daddy, I’m Done!

— Sola Sorinolu

My mother shared a story with me shortly after I was married. According to her, there was a time she wanted to go out and leave my brothers and I with our father. My father stood up from where he was sitting, took his shirt and walked out. He said he was going out too. My father didn’t want to be saddled with four boys!

That story made me decide not to be the traditional father with my kids.

“Daddy, I’m done!”. That is my 3 year-old second son’s call out sign to come clean him up after He finishes ‘downloading’ in his potty. It doesn’t matter that his mother is available, he just wants daddy, except I’m not home. And it’s my delight to do it.

I don’t want my children growing up with only the memory of their mother being the only one that bathes them, brushes their teeth, does their homework and school projects. After all, I am their father!

Dear husband and father, I’m in no way making light of your busy schedule. But when you are free and at home, let your children ‘feel’ your presence. I know a business executive who locks himself in his room playing computer games when he is home. Yet, his three kids barely see him during the week!

Be an active part of your children’s growing up process. Except, of course, you want them to grow up only as their mother’s children. And don’t be an absentee father either. Be there and let it show that you are there! Be involved!

Father Factor in Education:

Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are 70% less likely to drop out of school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to get As in school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities (Researchers at Columbia University)

Don’t leave your wife with the sole responsibility of raising your children. It’s meant to be a partnership!


  • Sola Sorinolu is a Christian educator, writer and speaker who believes strongly in the pragmatic solutions the Scripture proffers to life, family, business and career challenges. He is passionate about the extension of Christ’s influence on earth and in hearts.