10 Love Notes—for when Life feels like a Hot Mess

By Ikenga Chronicles December 27, 2016

10 Love Notes—for when Life feels like a Hot Mess

My beautiful stepdaughter is 16, and watching her navigate this space in life is interesting.

She’s not a child, not quite an adult, and is growing in responsibility (learning to drive!), conscious of others around her and more sensitive to their opinions, yet also becoming more aware of what is important to her. Good times (and sometimes not).

I got to thinking about what I’d share with my own 16-year-old self if I could go back in time. Unknowingly close to combustion, following a decade of gymnastics, two upcoming eating disorders and major depression, I was a hot mess (though trying to hold it all together).

In no particular order, here’s what I’d share:

1. Perfect is an illusion. No one is perfect. Everyone has challenges, you just may not be able to see them. No one gets out of life scot-free (and trying to do so would be missing the point: try seeing the challenges as the learning experiences they are, messages to try something different).

2. There is no “there”—there is no place where everything will be easy, you’ll never get angry, and you’ll never feel afraid. “There” is a myth.

3. You’re not doing it wrong. There is no wrong way; all paths are leading you to your ultimate destination. When something feels off, when you appear to “fail,” it’s simply a pointer to adjust your path.

4. You are enough, just as you are. You don’t need to be different or like someone else. You, just as you are, are exactly who you need to be, exactly who the world needs. The universe doesn’t make mistakes about who is here—you are needed. You have something to bring. You are worthy. (And so is everyone else.)

5. You’ve got to take action. The biggest part of life is showing…

READ MORE: http://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/07/10-love-notes-for-when-life-feels-like-a-hot-mess/

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