Taking Sex Slowly: the Key to Sexual Satisfaction & Healing. {Adult}

By Ikenga Chronicles January 8, 2017

Taking Sex Slowly: the Key to Sexual Satisfaction & Healing. {Adult}

“Slow down, you are moving too fast.”

If we could just dare utter those words softly, lovingly in the midst of sex play. Learning to do so can result in sex as a whole body, whole life healing experience.

Her breasts were identical. A-cups, but nearly B-cups thanks to holiday pie. But, beautiful as they were—compact, smooth and with small hard nipples that seemed ready and erect—they weren’t hers. By that I mean they didn’t house the sensations that they might. In fact, in spite of extended coaxing, touching, licking, kissing, loving and fondling there was no pleasure for her there.

Thankfully she didn’t fake it. Instead she dared to speak up: “They are numb,” she said. “I never really feel anything there.”

This wasn’t a problem for me. I was thrilled that she dared to say it. And I was instantly challenged. Unfeeling breasts, unlike a stop sign, don’t mean stop then proceed with caution. They are an invitation to dally, to linger as long as it takes until they come alive, awake—a base camp from which to challenge the summit of pleasure when the time is right.

Great sex can’t always be approached directly—it has no ETA or map. More often it is a fortuitous alignment of cosmic and worldly forces taking place as we feel our way patiently and lovingly through each other’s body images, touch chronicles and sexual baggage.

Under tender touch, caressing and sucking, twice in a half hour, her nipples responded ever so slightly. Tears rolled down here cheeks as she was reminded of memories of men who couldn’t love, but took her anyway as though she was chattel in the gender wars. Too many men are like that, and so many women succumb to their absence of charm, confirming their own undesirability.

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